Mom died tonight at 6:55. I spent yesterday evening with Mom and Dad for the nursing home Christmas party. Mom appeared to be trying to cough and couldn’t really clear her throat. She has apparently been having some trouble for the last few days. I spoke with her doctor this morning and we agreed to refer her to hospice again. And then this afternoon, she was transferred to the ER with trouble breathing. I spoke with her doctor there and he arranged for hospice but did not expect her to last the night. I’m not sure whether dying in the nursing home or the hospital is preferable, but they sent her back to the nursing home where she died within half an hour.
After this long journey with Alzheimers, her final steps were very fast. This was good for her, a release from a body and mind that no longer worked for her. She passed quietly and peacefully, just minutes before I arrived. Perhaps it was a final gift from her that I did not actually have to watch her die.
Goodbye Mama. I love you.