Well, here we are at the last week. After our discussion yesterday I’m trying to take a look at this week’s challenges and make them my own. I’m not in the same place in my life as what some of these challenges seem to imply, so I’ll do what I can to stretch outside my comfort zone or to meet the idea behind the challenges.
Monday, 9/23: Wear a Fabulous Dress
…dressing AS IF we love how we look, actually helps us start to see ourselves as beautiful.
Tuesday, 9/24: Plan a Date for This Weekend
…with your fine self …
Wednesday, 9/25: Stand Up Straight
Thursday, 9/26: Book a Massage
Friday, 9/27: Do Your Hair
Saturday, 9/28: Flirt With a Stranger
Sunday, 929: Eat Cake
…to eat cake, or something that feels incredibly delicious and decadent to you.
Monday, 9/30: Give Someone a Gift
Random acts of kindness make us feel alive, abundant and fulfilled.
It’s been a while. I don’t wear dresses but I think the idea behind this challenge is to dress up and put some effort into looking nice. My comfort zone is my comfy jeans and long t-shirts. I don’t really own anything else at the moment. I lost a lot of weight a few years ago and I got rid of all the clothes that no longer fit. Then I gained most of that weight back. I haven’t bought much besides what I absolutely had to because I tell myself I want to lose weight first. I don’t want to waste money on nice clothes that won’t fit when I lose weight.
So my goal for today is to start the shopping process, looking for clothes that I think will look nice that are outside my jeans and tee uniform. I can’t afford to buy anything right now but I can make plans and start setting aside some money toward the idea of – well, not only dressing better but having clothes appropriate for different occasions. In my neck of the woods, even the few nicer restaurants are jeans appropriate but it’d still be nice to have something a little more dressy once in a while.
Plan an activity for this weekend. Based on our conversation yesterday, I realized it’s been a long time since I did something nice just for me. There is so much I need to do around here and just keeping up with normal chores is hard when I start adding in all the extras that I need to get to. I get overwhelmed and feel like I’m not getting anything done at all – which makes doing something outside of chores or sorting and cleaning projects feel sort of unimportant. I’m not sure whether I’ll plan something at home or go somewhere and I’m not sure whether I’ll change days around a bit.
I’ve always tried to have pretty good posture. I was trained in this at a young age. However, I walk with a cane or walker and there’s a certain amount of stooping involved. So I will try to be more conscious of walking as upright as possible and carrying myself with better posture.
Nope, not going to happen. Is it going to surprise you when I say that this is something I am extremely uncomfortable with? I could easily blame the cost which certainly is a factor – but someone could give me a gift certificate and I still wouldn’t do it. There’s going outside my comfort zone and then there’s going so far that it would actually be traumatic for me at the moment. So, what could I do in the spirit of the challenge? I’m thinking maybe self massage. Instead of just rubbing in my moisturizers, spending that time massaging and appreciating my body.
Hmmm. Okay. I’ve gotten in the habit of being pretty lazy with my hair. Pony tails and hair clips! So, okay, I can do this.
Let’s change this to Talk to a stranger. Trust me, that’s a big enough challenge for me.
I feel like I do too much calorie splurging as it is. BUT, typically it involves impulses and guilt so I think I will plan on a decadent dessert for Sunday and make it a celebration. I want to take the time to really enjoy whatever I decide to make and appreciate all the flavors and textures. And then not feel all guilty for it.
This is something I truly enjoy. Finances limit how often I do this but let’s think about something I could do that would be nice for someone else but not be a huge financial burden for me. Right now, I’m thinking maybe cookies for the nurses and staff that take care of Mom and Dad.
While planning for this week, I’m also thinking about different things I can incorporate as I continue to set goals for myself past this month. I think that was a really good idea from ALKD. The challenges I typically set for myself are not fun and feel more like self-punishment than taking care of myself. Going forward, I need to include things that are fun and taking care of me instead of the kind of “rewards” that are only given when I meet some arbitrary weight loss goal.