Oh, my. I am afraid I am becoming more and more disenchanted with this program. I don’t want to sound too cynical here because there are some good things in what she says. Remember that the very same information can be presented by different people and some people you’re going to click with and some you are not. That does not make either better than the other. I’m just not clicking with Sarah but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have some good ideas or that others won’t benefit from her program. So what is it that is pushing my buttons?
First, her continued reference to living more now and not waiting until you’ve lost 20 pounds. If I were only 20 pounds overweight I’d be tickled pink. One of my opinions about losing weight and health is that the best thing you can do for yourself is find that point that you feel healthy and your weight is easy to maintain and be happy there. If that point is 20 pounds more than you think it should be, learn to like that 20 pounds. But that’s not the point, I suppose, and there are plenty of people for whom that 20 pounds is just as big of a mountain as the far more weight that I need to lose. It’s hard for me to relate to them and it’s hard for me to relate to the constant reference to “living more now before you do permanent damage.”
Arthritis? Diabetes? Sounds like permanent damage to me. Does that mean that these principles won’t work for me? No, books like When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies and Intuitive Eating have addressed these same concepts of loving ourselves, eating only when we’re hungry, meeting our needs with something other than food, etc, and are much more geared to women who may need to lose a lot of weight. The thing is, insight does not equal change.
Perhaps that is what Sarah is trying to achieve here. It’s just that her version of change involves what – at least from the light version of the program she’s presenting seems to entail – is a one size fits all program that I am not identifying with at all. Wear red lipstick! Go to a beautiful cafe to watch the video! Lipstick makes my lips peel. To watch the video at a beautiful cafe I’d need a laptop/tablet and a beautiful cafe. Don’t have either.
There are only two challenges this week that have any meaning to me. To spend a day eating only when you’re hungry which is something that is very hard for me. Lots and lots of habitual eating. And to tell your body you love her. I block on that. Even pretending to mean it, I block on that. So those are the days that I will put the most energy into the challenges. I don’t mind the one to cook a nice dinner – that’s what I’ve spent my summer doing. I’ve spent too long being afraid of food and starving myself on packaged convenience foods (for portion control) or binging.
One thing before I wander off again. I agree that we need to find the things that are missing in our lives and try to meet those needs in a way that doesn’t involve food. Trying to figure those things out, I think, is harder than a quick list of things I would do if I didn’t need to lose weight. But that’s probably not a bad place to start. It’s just that it isn’t simply an excuse when I say that I can’t physically do a lot of those things – like going for a hike or going dancing. Probably more important for me is to find ways to increase my confidence, especially in social situations. This is not a new idea for me but it is something I have not been able to resolve so far and it only gets harder the older I get.