Well, I slept fairly well for almost a week and didn’t wake up every morning dreading the day. Now we’re back to normal.
From the discharge summary: “…and he insists on being discharged home. I feel that I have to honor his request since he seems to be comprehending the choice of home vs. Nursing home.”
Does this make sense to anyone? During his brief visits with the doctor he answers questions “appropriately” and he’s not oriented to “exact time.” I was there when he said the year was 2000-something and that the season was spring. I guess that’s not “exact” all right. He was delusional while in the hospital and at least last night was still insisting that he needed to get his car from the hospital, even while he could see it sitting in the car port.
All the energy has been sucked out of me. Maybe they’re right, maybe he should be allowed to stay home. Maybe my opinion is being colored by my inability to cope with him anymore.
I will take care of all his financial stuff, bills, etc. I will take care of everything regarding Mom. I will do his laundry. I will do his shopping. I will take care of his cat. I will arrange for services for him. I will try to get him to the doctor.
I will not entertain him. I cannot spend extended periods of time with him.
update: and everything turns out to be a headache. Home health hasn’t arrived yet because Dad needs a primary care physician to follow up for home health and hey, that’s been part of the problem. I have calls in to them and the doctor I’d prefer him to see….. waiting. DFS hasn’t shown up yet either. Going to try to get his home worker out weekly – apparently need special permission for that.
And Dad is convinced that we have guests staying in the back room and wonders how long they will be staying.
Another hard talk with him. Generally I try not to upset him but I’m tired of pretending that this isn’t hard on me. We talked some about things that are Truths as opposed to what he believes. Why? It’s not like he will remember.