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I should change the banner to some pleasant field of green grasses. Oh, it’s still warm but it’s only been around 80° the past few days and we’ve even had some rain – and hence the neglected yard is growing and the weeds are out of control. I finally got a hold of a guy to hopefully mow the lawn. Another guy refused to come down to our house – says he has trouble with his trailer down here. But at least he gave me the number of someone else that might do it if the guy that is coming today doesn’t work out.

I was debating last night of whether to just boycott FaceBook the next few months or to ditch my account entirely when I realized I could just “unsubscribe” to everyone who is insisting on spamming me with canned political bullshit. Yes, on the political quiz I score just to the left of Ghandi, but I am reasonably accepting of other’s political opinions. Or at least I try to be. I don’t talk about politics much because, as I have said before, no one cares what I think and I don’t care what they think. If we have different opinions, we’re not likely to change our minds arguing about them.

The problem with FaceBook is that people seem to feel the need to spam other people’s pithy little opinions. And to be honest, I don’t really care whether I agree with you or not (except for that one friend who has been spamming anti-gay marriage rhetoric which I find truly offensive), it’s not why I go to FaceBook. I use FaceBook to keep in touch with a handful of friends since it’s even lazier than email. I wish there was a way to unsubscribe from all the photos and “funny” crap that my friends feel a need to share and still get the things they actually write. Oh, yes, I do occasionally share a link or something, I’m talking about the dozens per day per person that clutter up my newsfeed. No, sorry, I didn’t see that one post about something important because it was bounced by dozens of “click if you remember this” items.

I’m having something of a debate of whether it is worth it to stay in touch with that handful of friends via FaceBook or if I should put a little more effort into actually doing email. A couple of them are former bloggers as well as some real life friends. At any rate, I’ve temporarily solved things by unsubscribing from a bunch of people. That’s probably the chicken shit way out but I don’t like to offend folks if I don’t have to.

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14 thoughts on “unsubscribe!”

  1. Unfriending? I’m tempted too. My pet peeve is the plethora of untrue(and un-fact checked) links/posts that get put out there and FORWARDED. It’s truly frightening. At first I liked the “remember when” things, but my feed is clogged with them too!! And of course I remember the stuff; it’s from my era. 🙂

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    1. Yeah, one or two of those remember when things were cute but now 2 or 3 people are posting each of them every day. I’m not actually unfriending, I’m just unsubscribing (used to be ignore I think) their posts. And yes, the unfacted checked crap drives me nuts. It seems most people don’t want to check their own facts.

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  2. I’ve only been on FB for a few months and still trying to figure it out.
    Best part is I’ve been finding out a lot of what my nephews are up to.
    Have you been over to Pinterest? What a freakin’ mistake for me. First visit I spent two hours and my finger was cramped from scrolling. Yikes.

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    1. I just have not gotten into Pinterest. I am probably missing something but I’ve occasionally looked at it when someone points me at something in particular and I find it really hard to trace something interesting back to the original source. If I see, for example, a recipe pinned I want to be able to get back to the recipe (in one click, thank you) and not just look at the pictures. If that’s possible it sure hasn’t been obvious to me.

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  3. I’m glad that I’m not on FB. I left years ago & the more I hear about what’s going on with it now, the smarter I think I was to get out before ppl got so political. How ridiculous that you find yourself in this situation. It certainly doesn’t sound like friendship to me.

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    1. You are a wise woman Ally Bean. No, it doesn’t feel like friendship at all. It really seems like another one of those things that people think are okay to do online that we wouldn’t do in real life. I’m trying to imagine going out to lunch with friends and passing out literature that would be sure to be offensive to at least some of those friends. It’s not something I would do but perhaps others would. I made an offensive to some comment on the blog once about the Tea Party and I really felt bad about it. If I wrote a political blog that would be one thing but this is just not the place for it.

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      1. Exactly. If your personality + blog content were of a certain nature i.e. political all the time, then exchanging info about politcs would make sense.

        But in my experience, the ppl who send me anything politically controversial don’t want to talk about issues. They want me to be just like them– which is why they send more & more of the stuff. They seem to believe that if they inundate me with enough “information” then I’ll come to my senses & be just like them.

        Their behavior seems like a form of insanity to me. And is very annoying.

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        1. I used to participate in several internet discussion forums. I like the idea of exchanging opinions and it took me an unfortunately long time to understand that no one was really interested in discussing anything. It was more a matter of shouting more loudly what your own opinion was and woe to anyone who had a different opinion. For a long time, I felt like people weren’t listening to me when they would just shout the same information and pull out their experts who agreed with them. So now, I will state my opinion and clarify it once if necessary, but I have no expectation of someone else agreeing with me and I won’t engage in the back and forth shouting.

          A speaker I heard once said that we tend to assume that all we have to do is provide more information to change people’s minds about something – and if that were true, the pro-life and pro-choice people would change sides every time a new brochure came out.

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  4. I hope I’m not on the unsubscribe list or if I am that you’d let me know privately how I landed there. I’m always up for constructive criticism 🙂 I try to only post fluffy, fun updates on FB for exactly the reasons you’ve stated in your post. If I do share something it’s because it truly hit me hard or made me spit my drink out of my nose!

    I always look at my posts with the filter of what would others think if they found my page? What would Girl Scout parents think or coworkers? Is that the appropriate venue for me to talk about personal beliefs that are highly fused with emotion (political leanings, etc)? It’s my litmus test prior to posting.

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    1. Nah, Jana. You have no worries. It’s hard to describe my criteria for what annoys me. Do you post something political once in a while and do you actually include some thoughts of your own? You’re cool. Do you spam those stupid images of other people’s opinions? Yes, it’s the constant spamming that’s the issue more than what exactly someone posts.

      And yes, very well put. That’s why I try really hard not to post anywhere – blog, facebook, twitter, forums, etc., – when something has gotten me hot. In the past couple days I’ve been reading about this senate candidate from Missouri who is claiming that women who have experienced “legitimate” rape can’t get pregnant. My immediate response is all man hate-y and Republican hate-y although clearly not all men or all Republicans would buy into anything that colossally stupid. I have to re-learn the lesson once in a while to not shoot my mouth off when upset but I try.

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  5. I took that test. Interesting. It said I was a left leaning Centrist going more towards Libertarian than Statist. My red dot was right on the left part of the box that represents a Centrist. Very interesting. Actually I would describe myself as a social liberal and a fiscal conservative. Is that an oxymoron or just a moron. I had a Facebook page and a MySpace page for less than one day. I do Twitter just because it is easy and I only put stuff on it that interests me and like you say I could care less if somebody else finds it interesting. Anyway thanks for posting the link Sweets. Be well!

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    1. I’m probably fairly moderate fiscally. In my mind, at least. I’m definitely a social liberal. FaceBook is much less annoying at the moment with the spammers blocked. I think it’s a shame to have to block people who are supposedly my friends but since there’s no other way to filter posts it’s the best I can do.

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  6. I need to have a big clear out on FB too, and Twitter come to that. Lots of stuff on both that I really don’t need or want, which means that the stuff I do need or want gets buried! Polly

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